tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516988553748971179.post3871262386510803937..comments2024-01-31T08:40:13.371-08:00Comments on Alex in Spankingland: On Being Spanked to Tears, Againalex reynoldshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10406811265077936588noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516988553748971179.post-67669323103844072192015-02-23T12:12:26.147-08:002015-02-23T12:12:26.147-08:00Hi iwasrobert!
Of course I've been reading the...Hi iwasrobert!<br />Of course I've been reading the ATVOD: it's had a big effect on my life. Scrolling back through a few more posts and you'll see I've had a lot to say on it, too. I found it entertaining to borrow their language :P <br /><br />Interesting discussion. It's always hard to find old threads like that! :) alex reynoldshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10406811265077936588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516988553748971179.post-19927290127976177942015-02-21T14:40:07.737-08:002015-02-21T14:40:07.737-08:00Someone's been reading the ATVOD regulations!
...Someone's been reading the ATVOD regulations!<br /><br />Seriously though, great post. There was a fascinating discussion on this topic a few years ago which became quite heated, as there was quite a bit of back and forth between a group of (male?) viewers, who were asking why tears weren't more common - one fellow even suggested using onions to force them to appear - and another group of active models who were trying to explain that it was a bit more complicated than that.<br /><br />Damned if I can dig up the link though. That said, if you are interested Pandora Blake might remember where this all took place. I seem to recall she was a contributor to the thread.iwasrobertnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516988553748971179.post-63050843355486973602015-02-19T21:31:41.460-08:002015-02-19T21:31:41.460-08:00Hiya, thanks for your comment! While I find both t...Hiya, thanks for your comment! While I find both topping and bottoming gratifying, I do find bottoming more erotic, but the same things that trigger arousal in me as a bottom can work for me as a Top: scolding coupled with vulnerability, strictness et cetera. Some people who I top react in ways that I truly enjoy. <br /><br />I definitely have some fantasies about topping that I really want to explore, though. Usually when I top, it's more about the person I'm spanking than me and what I want. alex reynoldshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10406811265077936588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516988553748971179.post-57583996917044672592015-02-19T21:29:30.753-08:002015-02-19T21:29:30.753-08:00Hiya, Mark!
Yes! Crying is definitely not gender s...Hiya, Mark!<br />Yes! Crying is definitely not gender segregated. I've made a lot of men cry when I've spanked them, actually. It can be harder for men to cry because of all the social constructs about men crying that they've been conditioned with. It makes me feel good when I can bring someone (who wants to be brought there) to the point of tears. I know how important getting to that place is to me, so I want to share that with people, male or female. <br />I might write a whole post on this topic soon.<br />Hugs to you!<br />Aalex reynoldshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10406811265077936588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516988553748971179.post-5982565538001805342015-02-19T21:27:50.180-08:002015-02-19T21:27:50.180-08:00I <3 you, Lily! Thanks for your comment! I defi...I <3 you, Lily! Thanks for your comment! I definitely agree that tears can make a scene special and make it stand out in my mind! alex reynoldshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10406811265077936588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516988553748971179.post-3351778137260578162015-02-19T21:27:11.958-08:002015-02-19T21:27:11.958-08:00Thank you so much for sharing your own experiences...Thank you so much for sharing your own experiences! I'm so glad you did. I'm glad you were able to get the release you needed. Hugs!alex reynoldshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10406811265077936588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516988553748971179.post-34536000098972047052015-02-18T23:55:54.990-08:002015-02-18T23:55:54.990-08:00Hey Alex. Love your blog site. Enjoy reading abo...Hey Alex. Love your blog site. Enjoy reading about you. I did have a question. When you top a spankee, do you ever get aroused? Or what about topping might turn you on a little? Just curious in Sacramento. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516988553748971179.post-41899827019484005202015-02-14T13:44:12.589-08:002015-02-14T13:44:12.589-08:00Great post, Alex. I have a question for you and yo...Great post, Alex. I have a question for you and your readers, though.<br /><br />Do male spankees cry? Is this something you've seen much, or at all? I'm genuinely curious because, as you may or may not know, I'm pretty new to bottoming and it's not something that's been on my radar. Not until a young lady that my wife and I met brought it up. <br /><br />We were talking with her about becoming an occasional disciplinarian for me and so we discussed the different types of implements, positions, and spankings. Then she said to me, "Do you need to cry?"<br /><br />I was taken aback because for a woman to make a manly 6ft-something man in his mid-30s (ahem, close enough), to make him cry?? But the question has niggled at me and now I've seen your post I thought maybe you could address it. How would you even feel if you spanked a man and he cried?!<br /><br />Again, great post as ever. :)Mark (aka Mr. Cutiecouple)noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516988553748971179.post-11316145874640956472015-02-14T07:44:12.255-08:002015-02-14T07:44:12.255-08:00How are you so awesome? What a comprehensive and e...How are you so awesome? What a comprehensive and eloquent analysis of the topic of tears! I don't cry as easily as you do, but when I do it's usually the disappointment kind, very rarely the actual fear/pain kind, but they have happened, and sadly I've experienced the bad kind too. As long as they're not the bad kind, they definitely make a scene more special and memorable for me, partly due to their relative rarity, partly because I have to go to a pretty vulnerable place to get to tears.Lilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17563442543049968836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516988553748971179.post-77292909530150706662015-02-10T12:23:44.712-08:002015-02-10T12:23:44.712-08:00A very well thought out treatise on this subject. ...A very well thought out treatise on this subject. There are a lot of reasons for tears. One top I know who makes videos views tears as a gift the bottom gives the top. <br /><br />I hope you don't mind my sharing some of my own experiences. <br /><br />Since I started in this spanking thing, I have cried every time except for a few times I have played with others besides my regular top. The first time I was spanked, I cried as I thought of my late husband. It had only been a little over a year since he died. My top told me that I went into subspace. That sort of started the flood gates opening. I found I have a lot of pent up stuff inside that needs to come out. When my top and I decided to go for an hour and a half, there was one session where I cried very hard for a solid hour! That was a very powerful session.<br /><br />It is when I get into my headspace that I start to cry and go into subspace. I have only on occasion felt a bit spacy and going in and out of that particular part of subspace. I have found that my body goes into subspace before I do. It is funny to watch me try to get up after the session. <br /><br />My top encourages me to cry and she will tell me to let it go. She knows I have a lot of stuff that got buried deep inside and crying for me is a release. Bobbie Jonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516988553748971179.post-71737417123037824972015-02-09T19:49:26.370-08:002015-02-09T19:49:26.370-08:00Thank you so much for your words of praise! They m...Thank you so much for your words of praise! They mean a lot to me. :Dalex reynoldshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10406811265077936588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516988553748971179.post-1737761652096493252015-02-09T19:49:02.845-08:002015-02-09T19:49:02.845-08:00Everyone plays in a different way!I like to play o...Everyone plays in a different way!I like to play on a more intense emotional level than some people. alex reynoldshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10406811265077936588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516988553748971179.post-32468437456971668432015-02-09T14:59:14.831-08:002015-02-09T14:59:14.831-08:00This is the best explanation for tears I have ever...This is the best explanation for tears I have ever seen. Well done. It's easy, for me anyway, to forget there are many sources for tears.Our Bottoms Burnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11365742469460740718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516988553748971179.post-55981260402838855792015-02-07T18:56:42.321-08:002015-02-07T18:56:42.321-08:00I always appreciate the realism in many of the fil...I always appreciate the realism in many of the films you or other actresses star in. - In my own real life bedroom activity, girlfriends and I were usually laughing too much when we did kinky activity for it to be erotic, but it was fun and games for both partners...Paul Hoosonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03029231853435326869noreply@blogger.com