Product Review: Paddles and Panties

The story of some of the ridiculous things that have happened recently and which have prevented me from attending to my blog as thoroughly as I would like to shall be appearing soon. It's more important to me to get this post up, first, and then chatter on about myself. Not like I won't be chattering on in this post, but, you know!

I love underpants. I love them far too much. I like plain ones and lacy ones, cute ones and crazy ones and everything in between. One thing I had never had, however, were spanking related panties. The closest thing that I had were my "GUILTY" panties from my shoot with Spanking Court, which I absolutely love.

When I was given these at Spanking Court, I asked Katerina where they came from. She directed me to her site, Paddles and Panties, where I proceeded to oogle over just about everything. The idea of selling implements and underpants in the same place is so perfect. I'm far too fond of obtaining both of those things.

Paddles and Panties is great for several reasons, besides basically being one-stop-shopping for spankos. They offer a series of underpants with cute, spanking related sayings on the butt, and I'm happy to report that they don't discriminate. They are available for men and in female plus sizes as well as standard female sizing. The panties themselves are well made and fit comfortably, and the text is screen-printed on in a way that looks great and holds up well to washing. I can't say anything about dryers, though, since I hang all my underwear to dry.

The phrases available are cute and witty, and since they're made up by a spanko, they're things that many of us will relate to. :)

"Paddled to Perfection"

The phrases are in a variety of fonts and colors, which mixes things up quite a bit.

I'm personally very into wearing these panties to work under my regular clothes. It makes me feel the same sort of "getting away with something secret" feeling that I get when I'm hiding bruises under my skirt!

"Seat of Education"

These are also sure to be hits at spanking parties, and make for a fun "reveal" when you pull your pants down or raise your skirt to reveal the message!

"100% Spankable" (I'll replace this with a better photo once I get some help: taking photos of your own butt is hard!)

I have had a chance to be spanked with several of the implements sold on their site, as well, and they're quality stuff. I'm most familiar with their wooden pieces, and they really sting a lot! I also discovered that the horrible black spoon which Dana Kane spanked us Sternwood Girls with comes from them! That was an unforgettable implement. It was one of the worst spoons ever (pretty much only topped by "Ben"). You can pick that up if you really want to teach someone a lesson or eight!

They also have this fun thing called "Spanko Lotto" which is basically a scratch off lottery card for spanking! You pick a box and it tells you how many swats and with what implement you are to be spanked. It's a fun little thing and really adorable.

I recommend that you check their site out and pick up one or two items that catch your eye. They're run by awesome people who are offering a unique and well made product. I give them my highest "marks." :P

Interview: Spanking Latte

Hello, my dear, sweet internet!

I'm so sorry that I've been neglecting you recently! Things in my vanilla life have continued to be over-the-top busy. I've got posts lined up for the next few days with lots of good stuff, though.

Today, I have another interview. This time it's with spanking blogger Latte. Go ahead and check out her blog; Spanking Latte. I was lucky enough to meet her at my first spanking party. She's extremely sweet and a great writer.

Latte! Such a cutie!

Spankingland: How long have you been interested in spanking?

Latte: That is a hard question to me because I'm not really sure. I think spanking has always interested me, but I really started looking into the BDSM/spanking world when I was about 18 years old.

Spankingland: I had a pretty similar experience-- I kinda ran into things right when I was old enough to, because I'd been thinking about it for so long! How did you *find* the BDSM/spanking community?

Latte: It is an interesting story how I found the community. I had a psychology paper for school about childhood spanking. When I went to go research the material for the report, I found spankingtube along with various of other sites for spanking stories

Spankingland: That's really interesting! Were you excited when you first discovered it?

Latte: I was very excited when I discovered it. I also was nervous because I didn't know what to expect when I first started chatting with other spankos.

Spankingland: When you first became interested in spanking, did you know that you were a switch, or were you originally drawn to one of the roles and then branched out into the other as well?

Latte: Actually I started out as a bottom only. I first thought I would never like to spank. I had a close spanko friend of mine ask if I would want to try it on him and I agreed. After I spanked him, I became a switch. I fell in love with getting to spank just as receive.

Spankingland: So, at this point, do you have a preference between spanking or being spanked?

Latte: I don't have a preference of either being spanked or spanking.

I enjoy both of them 50/50.

Spankingland: Awesome. What are some of the most exciting things that you've gotten to do as part of the spanking community?

Latte: I haven't been able to do a whole lot at the moment. School is currently my number one priority. I have gotten to attend some private parties here in Indiana which I have enjoyed. Also meeting my fellow kinksters I talk to is very exciting.

Spankingland: Are there things that you'd eventually like to do? Any goals, dreams or plans relating to spanking?

Latte: When life slows down I would like to go to the major spanking parties like BBW and Shadowlane. I also would like to start doing spanking shoots once my name gets out there.

Spankingland: Besides school and work, do you have anything else in your vanilla life which keeps you busy?

Latte: I do. I have partial custody of my niece and I play mom to her. She keeps me pretty busy with her extra curricular activities. I also work with 2 rescues and do various jobs for them.

Spankingland: Do you have any advice for people, especially young adults, who are just getting into the spanking scene?

Latte: Yes. I would encourage joining groups around your area so you can get to know kinksters around your specific area. I would also just be cautious. Most of the community is very nice and very welcoming, but you just want to be safe!!

Hope you guys enjoyed this! 

Alex Interviews: Alexis Steele

I'm going to be starting a new series of posts on my blog in which I interview various persons from within the spanking community: bloggers, models, writers, producers, party organizers, pro Tops and bottoms, implement makers, you name it! Our community is rich and diverse and I'd love to share the stories of some of the awesome people in it. If you're interested in being interviewed, please drop me an email.

Today, the series begins with an interview with up-and-coming spanking model, Alexis Steele. I'm very fond of Alexis: she has a warm, inviting personality, is a true-blue spanko and has a really hot ass (I had to say it! I can't only fawn over people's personality traits!) Furthermore, she's one of the people who really encouraged me to move forward when I became interested in starting spanking modeling way back in September: something I've tried to pay forward and help other friends who are just trying to get their feet in the water as models. 

Pixie Wells spanking Alexis, courtesy of Punished Brats

Q: How long have you known that you were into spanking? 

A: I had funny little fantasies develop around the age of 7. I remember watching TV shows, like "Charlie's Angels" and imagined getting spanked by the lead characters. 

Q: At what point did you realize that this was something that you actually wanted to do?

A: By the time I entered my twenties, I knew I had to explore hard spankings as part of my personal happiness. I contacted personal ads in the back of the local papers and had some pay for play sessions. I did the paying.

Q: How often were you able to get together with a spanking partner when you first started? 

A:  I had three paid for sessions with a local male top in my mid twenties, but I stopped right after those that because he was looking more for a slave rather than a spankee. I was getting physical gratification, but was learning I craved emotional connection, too. Then I entered a VERRYYYY long dry spell after that-until my mid 30's.

Q: That must have been really difficult! How did you keep sane?

A: I actually became obsessed with mental scenarios as to what my perfect spankings would entail. I started reading tons of spanking literature and fine tuning my genuine dynamics. I eventually found a good male friend who was willing to deliver some righteous bare bottomed spankings to me from time to time. I also couldn't shake the growing desire of wanting to get non sexually spanked by other women.

Q: Was that something that was part of your original fantasies, or did it come up later on? 

A: Those were my original fantasies, based on my early childhood TV fantasies! Also I was very rebellious in school and gave a lot of attitude to female teachers in particular. I was looking for attention and they didn't provide it at the time! 

Q: So you were originally more interested in being spanked by women than men, but then men were the ones who were available? 

A: You nailed it RIGHT on THE money! And I think this is why I had so many dry spells in early adulthood. They were nice spankings, but something was lacking mentally from the men's spankings.

I thought long and hard about this and the complex truth is I prefer male sex partners to females, but prefer female spankers to males. I wonder how common or uncommon this is with other women.

Q: It isn't something I've heard of many examples of, but it makes a lot of sense to me. Our sexual and kink orientations aren't necessarily the same. I find the details of this pretty fascinating.

A: I actually do get very mentally stimulated while getting a hard spanking and a great scolding. My mind gets very turned on! Like I'm in a competition of sorts.

Q:  A competition against whom? 

A: Honestly, myself. Not the spanker like you'd figure. I go to a spanking knowing "it's going to HURT!" But I like to accept "physical challenges" such as these. So I do my best to take what's coming without "too" much protest. I would love to see videos featuring spanking contests.

Q: That's another idea that I can get behind! That makes a lot of sense to me.

At what point did your spanking life start to get more fruitful? 

A: The last 3 years have been incredible for me in Spanking Land. I connected with fantastic website producers, Chelsea Pfeiffer and Pixie Wells. I spent a lot of time exchanging emails with these lovely women as well as others in the spanking community. I've been blessed to participate in two video shoots to date. Chelsea broke my video cherry if you will. Punished Brats was my second on camera adventure.

Q: What was your first video experience like?!

A: Every bit as wonderful as I hoped! I did a reality spanking shoot called Chelsea Spanks!  Thirty minutes of unedited, no cut spanking. It's a terrific way to debut on camera because you get to act as yourself. I really enjoyed the shoot. I actually forgot the camera was there. I was too busy thinking about my ever reddening bottom! 

"I wasn't to proud to shout 'THIS HURTS!'"

Q: Did a half hour seem like a long time to you? I know I was pretty surprised when Chelsea said that my shoot was done!

A: Initially no. But the last tem minutes in particular were exceptionally challenging. Chelsea used some of her heavier implements and really let me know she was in charge. I wasn't too proud to shout  "This hurts!" I felt the "love" for three or four days after! 

Q: Awesome! The shoots that you've done with Punished Brats have been with you as a Top, right? 

A: So far the first shoot was me in Switch mode. I played an irresponsible nanny who spanked the daylights out of my college aged charge. But then I got a spanking from my younger than me boss for negligent performance. Ha! Ha! It was a blast working with the PB crew. David Pierson is exceptionally hospitable and very knowledgeable about scene distribution. And Pixie...I love her to pieces.

Q: That's so excellent! Is switching something that you're interested in naturally, or is it one of those things that you just aren't opposed to and would do for the camera? 

A: Total honesty here...I would have never considered topping or switching a few years ago. I feel my heart belongs in my bottom so to speak. But my dominant personality came out very effectively on camera. I will always prefer getting the spankings but will Switch on camera on a sporadic basis.

Q: That's sort of how I feel, too! I do get a bit Toppy towards certain girls sometimes, when they have a certain personality. It looks like you did a great job with it, though!

A: Thank you Alex! My "brat" Audrey was such a sweetie in person. She changed into the ultimate brat. And the feisty ones are THE ones I want to spank. I feel less "guilty" if they're asking for it as opposed to pleading to NOT get spanked.

"I feel my heart belongs in my bottom... but my dominant personality came out very effectively on camera!"

Q: Do you have any plans to do more videos in the future? 

A: I would love to do more videos I have a few possible shoots in the future. They're such fun because we get to play act and explore parts of our personalities we want to expand or didn't even know was there.

Q: At this point in your development, what would your perfect spanking be? 

A: I so much love role plays. I really identify with the student/teacher or student/principal scenes. I would love to get spanked by Miranda Marx as my principal and I'm either her defiant student or errant teacher requiring a "lesson" of my own. As for physical sensations, I love bare hand, and many implements across my bare bottom.

Q: Do you have a favorite or least favorite implement? 

A: My favorites are wooden paddles, hand and straps. So far I haven't met an implement I hated, But I'd be leery of inexperienced caners or those using whips.

Q: Finally: do you have any advice for those who are just getting involved in the spanking scene?

A: Do your research folks! Think out your own fantasies. Join groups like Fetlife because you'll find so many people who are compatible for your own needs. Develop strong email bonds with people you admire. It pays off in many ways! If possible attend the national parties like Shadow Lane and Boardwalk Badness.

Alexis' videos can be seen at Good Spanking and Punished Brats. Her video premier in the Chelsea Spanks! series is available to purchase on DVD. 

Goodbye to Heather

For the past several months, one of my all-time best friends (and fellow spanking model), Heather Michaels, has lived with Malignus and I. There have been a lot of awesome times and adventures during that time. My sisters in my family of origin are both considerably older than me and also suffer from a condition known as "being total bitches" so I never had a close relationship with them, but Heather has always been exactly like what I imagine a sister is supposed to be. It doesn't matter what we're supposed to be-- she's part of the family that I chose for myself.

Unfortunately for me, but on a very exciting note for her, Heather left Sioux Falls on Friday to move to Texas with her boyfriend, who had been out of the country for work since before they started dating. Malignus and I took her to the airport to pick him up and got to meet him for the first time. He's a really awesome guy and I'm very happy for them. Unfortunately, pretty much as soon as we got to the airport, I started to get a fairly severe migraine, so I sort of shook his hand, went home, threw up a bunch and then curled up in the bed and died for the rest of the night.

The next day, I was supposed to go to work and then the four of us were supposed to go to the other side of the state to visit various sites including Bear Country USA. The list of the happiest days of my life include when I got spanked for the first time, when I entered University (I find this to be happier than my graduation because the fact that I had to leave the college after graduating was pretty tragically heartbreaking for me so that was very bittersweet) and the day that I spent at Bear Country in August with Malignus. We also went there recently for the Cub Festival, where they didn't actually let me hold the cubs but they did let me pet them and I kissed one when no one was looking.

Anyway, I was so sick that I decided out of my own free will that I needed to stay home for the weekend instead of driving out to see all these awesome things (read- baby and adult bears). It's no wonder that originally, Malignus wanted me to stay with friends who live closer to the hospital before I convinced him that I was going to be alright!

EVEN MORE sad than the fact that this meant I didn't get to see bears is the fact that this meant that I didn't get to have a weekend to say goodbye to Heather. I spent last weekend at Sternwood with her, but without the idea that she'd be leaving soon at the front of my brain. I already miss her like crazy and it's only been a day and a half since she left.

I wanted to take a moment to celebrate this very special woman who I've been very fortunate to have in my life.

Heather is very sweet and she cares about the people in her life with a sense of devotion that is rare and beautiful.

She's energetic and can really get behind having a good adventure. I love hearing her say "YES! Let's do that!" when we're brainstorming ideas for ways that we can have fun or do something cool.

 Our minds are very in-tune when it comes to our spanko nature, and we can't go anywhere without finding things that could be used as implements.

Heather is strong without being threatening. I've never felt like she was going to punch someone in the face, but she carries herself with a sense of confidence which makes it undeniable that you shouldn't fuck with her. (She did tell a hippy to shut up on a plane once, though. That was for the win.)

Heather is fun to very nearly get into trouble with in real life (oh look! We somehow got everything done at the last minute!) and to get into lots of "for fun" trouble with during shoots.

Heather is fun to get spanked with and her reactions are very powerful and genuine and also kind of cute. She's a fun Top when we play that way, even if she hasn't developed a great sense of rhythm yet. :P

I think that she could probably run from South Dakota to Texas and be just fine, because she's crazy athletic.

Heather is a really beautiful woman. It's clear to everyone that looks at her that physically, she's a knock out, but to me, the more important beauty comes from her positive energy and the fact that she can't hide what a good person she is.

I know we'll be seeing each other before too long, and we'll be in each other's lives forever. My love and affections for her could not be more genuine and I know that distance won't diminish them.