Liebster Award?

I know, I know, everyone's done this by now. I'm very late to the party. I may have even been nominated on some other blog and not noticed due to being ignorant or something. None the less, in traditional, fashionably late Alex style, I now present to you:

I believe you are all familiar with drill. I believe that this game is a bit played out now, though, so I shall not be nominating anyone. None the less, here are my eleven random facts about me:

1) I take a bath in the tub nearly every day. I'm a bit addicted to them, and I'm convinced that they are good for keeping the skin on my bottom soft and spankable.

2) In addition to being a spanking and, it would probably be fair to say, discipline fetishist, I also have some level of fetishistic feelings towards selecting and wearing cute or ornate panties and knee socks, wearing a large number of layers of clothing during cold weather and bandaids, especially cute bandaids and especially when they are applied to me by someone else.

3) I once hit our State Bird with my car. I was rather distressed.

4) I'm currently grounded from USING THE LIGHT OVER THE STOVE because I keep leaving it on by accident. This is probably the silliest thing one can be grounded from ever, and it's even sillier that it really bothers me.

5) There are only five decorative things in my living room: a signed and framed photo of Morena Baccarin that was a gift from a friend, a picture of my deceased elder brother, a periodic table, a small jar filled with origami stars which Zeki made for me and Barry and Bearito, my two flocked bears that Malignus bought me during my first two trips to Bear Country, USA. 

6) The other day, I passed out unconcincious in the middle of the grocery store because I hadn't had enough water that day. It was a pretty unique experience, but I don't recommend it to others. 

7) I want a puppy, but the deal is that I can't get a puppy until I can beat Malignus at chess. I'm not good at chess. :(

8) I only learned how to swim about a week ago. I wouldn't say that I'm good at it, but at least now I can do it to some degree without looking like a total fool. 

9) My favorite ice cream flavor is peach. Mmmmm. 

10) I was once spanked so hard that my fake eyelashes came off. I was surprised that this was possible. 

Eh, fake eye lashes don't make that big of a difference, anyway. This was taken earlier in the evening before they came flying off my face. 

11) The fact that there are 11 items in this list is really going to ruin S_F's day. :D

And now, on to the questions that were posed to me Kaelah, over at Ludwig's Rohrstock-Palast: 

1. What was one of your first kinky fantasies which you can remember?

My original spanking fantasies were very unformed and mostly just involved the actual act. Even as a child, I fantasized about adults in Domestic Discipline relationships, although I didn't know that was the name for it. I also fantasized about being spanked by my peers, or by teachers or other authority figures. It wasn't until grade seven when the stories I made up in my mind became complex and included reoccurring characters and complicated discipline scenarios.  

2. What makes you happy about blogging?

I like to write, and I like to share that which I write. Blogging has been a great outlet for that, and it lets me ramble on to a bunch of people instead of just talking my friends' ears off all the time. :) 


3. Did blogging ever made you sad? If yes, why?

A couple of times I got into a slump of not posting, and this made me really disappointed in myself and therefore lead to me posting less frequently. That totally made me sad. I've only really been able to stick to my desired schedule now that I have YS enforcing this for me. 


4. Please describe one of your happiest kinky moments.

Over the summer, I spent six consecutive weeks touring the county and shooting/filming. I didn't get back to Sioux Falls or see Malignus until after Shadowlane. When I arrived home, he had suffered a concussion at work that evening and he called me as I was getting off the plane to let me know I was not to tackle hug him for health reasons. There was quite a bit of regular hugging, though. We were both super exhausted that night, but he still spanked me two different times before bed, effectively melting away all the stress and exhaustion that had built up over a long period of travel. I felt so safe and content over his lap, and I was as at home as a girl has ever been. It's wonderful to have a relationship where I can go out and have those sort of adventures and come home to be right where I belong again. :D


5. What do you like about the kinky community?

Everywhere else, my fetishism makes me weird. Period. No matter how accepting a vanilla person is, within a group, if people knew just how much of my life was dedicated to spanking and D/s related activities, people would ostracize me. Here, I'm just one of the gang. I feel safe from judgement and like I can be my real self. :) 

6. Are there things you don't like about the kinky community?

I don't like Politics, and sometimes, spanko politics pop up. "You filmed with so and so and I hate them, so now we're not friends anymore" and that sort of shallow thing. I also dislike drama, and things like back stabbing, and unfortunately, that happens from time to time, too. 

7. Please describe the most memorable development that you made in your kink (for example, meeting fellow kinksters for the very first time or becoming open for a new kind of play).

Probably the most memorable development for me would be when I came to learn about and be comfortable with my submission. I previously only identified as a bottom, but I eventually discovered that submission is really gratifying and an excellent way for me to grow. I've been much happier since I started down that path. 

8. Are there crucial elements in your kinky play?

For a scene to be gratifying to me, it either has to be spanking related or be something that another person with a strong scene presence or energy is really into, in a way that he can bring me into it as well. I did several scenes with IG that just weren't stuff I'd normally be interested in, but which brought me into an awesomely submissive headspace because it was entirely about his enjoyment and that was something that our relationship made work. I can't just get into something else with some random person, although truthfully, it's rare for me to really get into a spanking with someone I don't really know unless he is very talented at the mental side of things. 

9. Do you have any pet peeves when it comes to spanking storylines or videos?

I hate it when someone says something wrong in a video and they don't go back to correct it. For example, I once watched a video where a Top was lecturing a girl during a spanking and he said "If you live under my house, you live under my rules." What he meant was "If  you live under my roof, you live under my rules." I couldn't keep watching the video, because I was too busy imagine this poor girl who has to live in the crawl space under his house and still obey all the rules. 

10. Is there any kinky fantasy that you haven't played out (yet) for fear that the real experience won't be able to match the appeal of the fantasy?

There are a lot of things that seem appealing in my head but are not in the real world. All spanking related things have turned out to be awesome in the real world, but a lot of things that I was curious about outside of that turned out to just be really uncomfortable or creepy in the real world. I'll even daydream about things that are excessively violent or scary beyond what's appropriate, but there's a different tint to those. I know that spanking is my fetish and that things related to that are things I want to do. Other stuff is a big question mark. 

11. Please describe one of your spanking (real life or story) fantasies in 11 or fewer words. 

Heather W. and I have a glitter explosion. Spanking ensues.

Happy Spanksgiving!

Well, this is belated.
That's what always happens to me with holidays and events. I'm kind of amazed that I managed to make my LOL day post on LOL day.

I do have a fairly good reason for my delayed posting (although it didn't keep me out of trouble for breaking the blogging rules): Malignus and I traveled to Texas to spend Thanksgiving with likeminded friends there, specifically WearYouOut and LilLawBrat. I stayed with them in August and spent time with them at three other parties, and we've grown very close. Debs, Mila Kohl, Zoey Wicks and Morgan_ were other friends that we got to spend lots of time with. It was just wonderful to spend the holiday with chosen family. It was pretty much the best holiday of any sorts that I've celebrated.

Our flights to Texas on Wednesday went pretty seamlessly: Malignus slept basically the whole way and I read some Foucault and then played games on my phone once my brain got sufficiently tired out for philosophy. When we arrived, we were quickly greeted by LLB and we drove back to their house where I proceeded to pounce all over everyone who was there and demand cuddles. We went swimming and in the hot tub, which we would end up doing every single night. After we dried off, Mila and I snuck off for some girly catching up which we followed with Mila playing Bright Eyes' "Lua" on her ukulele while we sang together (Mila is much better at singing than I am). I kind of wish I had a video of this to share with you, but for some unfortunate reason I don't film 100% of my life. :P The night wrapped up with Malignus giving me a super relaxing bedtime spanking before we fell asleep in a really comfortable guest bed and slept until 11 the next morning.

Thanksgiving day itself was extremely fun. WYO and LLB don't really let me help around their house too much (because they want me to actually take a break for once!) but I helped out wherever I could get away with it. I also followed them around the kitchen asking a bunch of questions, so I hope that I picked up a few extra cooking skill points (I often see myself as a Sim, with the blue skill bar over my head filling as I do certain tasks). LLB also bought me coloring stuff because I didn't have any with me, so I drew name plates for each of the guests at the table. I don't have photos of these, either, because I was kind of just living in the moment, but each one was ornate and tried to capture the aesthetic preferred by the person being labeled (to the best of my understanding). Zoey's was kind of my masterpiece- her name was written in block letters filled with hearts, and then there was a kitten peaking up over the edge of the paper. Following his preferred style, Malignus' was a plain white piece of paper with "Malignus." written on it in plain black lettering. :P

The Thanksgiving meal was pretty much the best meal ever. The turkey was perfect, there were tons of amazing sides and no one fought at the dinner table (something that's NEVER happened in my family of origin). I was extremely thankful to be there with such lovely friends.

After dinner, we participated in the Thanksgiving tradition which I started last year: thigh turkeys.

I put the faces on in post this year, since having the marker on my skin last year was really annoying. 

In case anyone doesn't know, turkeys really hurt, but they look pretty amazing. Zoey also received some turkeys, but Debs opted out for reasons that were somehow related to her boobs hurting. :P

After I healed a bit, we ate some delicious pie (really, one of the best pies of all time) and then swam again. I went to sleep feeling snuggly, sore and full-- pretty much the best possible combination.

On Friday, we avoided Black Friday. In fact, I think this is the first time that I successfully participated in Buy Nothing Day (totally by accident), although Malignus bought me and my friend Pandie a matching present (which I won't post about until she gets hers).
Friday involved lots of spanking, of course, including some experiments with new-to-me implements.

Getting spanked by LLB!

And of course, what holiday is complete without me being spanked to the point of tears?

On Saturday, we ate Stanley's Famous BBQ, which is basically the best place to eat in the world. That evening, Debs came over again and there was lots more spanking, including some extremely unacceptable implement usage. I also got nibbled on by WYO and LLB's dog, Henry. It was kind of annoying when he nipped under regular circumstances, but when he decided to take a little chomp on my welted thighs, I got a bit cranky. :P

Malignus approved of Henry's "aftercare" 

In general, Malignus and that dog got along perfectly. Apparently they are both missing each other like crazy now that we've gone home: WYO reports that Henry has now "given up hope and is acting like an ass."

So, I know this isn't the most exciting post I've ever made, but that was my weekend in a nutshell. It was amazing to spend time with a whole bunch of people that I care about so much. It's very nice to be home again, though. :)

News Day!

My blog is clearly not about the latest in spanking news, but today, I have a few things that I'd like to point out.

Item of business number the first: 
I've updated the template of the blog to be more visually appealing, and to include a kind of awesome new header, featuring a photo of me which was taken by my good friend Amoni Jones. I've updated my blog roll to include only blogs that have recently posted. If you took a hiatus from blogging, please send me a note when you return so I can, once again, include you. If you're interested in trading links, please email me at alexinspankingland@gmail.com. For those of you who are interested in the details, I also updated the blog description and added a separate section for my disclaimers, which were also updated. I'll be going through the static FAQ and cast of characters pages to update that information next. I'm happy to say that the current layout of the blog is much closer to what I originally intended for the page to look like during its inception.

Item of business number the second: 
The 2012 Spanking Awards are open for nominations over at The Spanking Spot. I'm really excited to announce that, at least in this preliminary stage, I've been nominated for New Spankee of the Year, Creative Blog of the Year and Spankee of the Year (the title currently held by my most beloved Ten Amorette).

Does this make a photo of me and Ten naked together topical? Please? 

I really wish that I could say that this sort of validation isn't important to me, but that would be a huge lie. Until the spanking community, I was a quiet and forgettable girl. I could hardly get anyone to sign my yearbooks in school, let alone dream of being a superlative. I always fancied myself Most Likely to be Completely and Utterly Forgotten, Most Likely to be Shunned by Family and Friends and Spend Life Alone Due to Perverse Obsessions or Most Likely to Have Her Dead Body Discovered by a Public Librarian. I'm obviously now a very different girl than I was when I was younger, but I imagine it will take years to shake those feelings from the back of my mind. So, needless to say, this is a matter of huge excitement to me, and I'm really just overwhelmed with joy to have received nominations, especially from people for whom I have great respect. This makes me super happy. I went ahead and nominated a few people myself. If there's someone you feel should probably win a prize, go ahead over and list them.

Item of business number the third: 
I can't remember if I mentioned that my sets have been up for a while now on Real Spankings and Real Spankings Institute, but in case I did, I'll mention it again. I feel like I haven't done an "updates" sort of post for a while, so it's likely that I did not. I had an absolutely fabulous time filming with Betty Blaze, and I can't wait to go back and shoot again.

Shooting with Real Spankings was extremely exciting for me, because it was the first spanking site that I really looked at when I started using the internet for spanking related things, and I'd followed it on and off for years. It was just magical to put on the uniform myself and become part of that world.

Additionally, a couple of days ago my first clip went up on Amateur Spankings! Filmed during TASSP, this is an interview style video, which, of course, includes my butt:

I advice you all to go check those out. :)


Item of business number the fourth: 
For those of you who don't yet know, my best of best friends, Heather Green has launched a blog: The grammatically challenged musings of Heather Green. She's only posted twice so far, but I'm sure there is quite a bit more to come. In case anyone hasn't heard, Heather is incredibly sweet, a dedicated friend and, despite what the name of her blog might suggest, quite a smart chick.

From Northern Spanking. She's also a knock out, basically. 

Anyway, I recommend that you all go check her blog out. I expect it to be down to earth, honest and full of a seriously dorky sense of humor (just like my dearest Heather).

Item of business number the last:
One of my favorite stores for buying spanking related things, Paddles and Panties  has released Christmas themed items, including holiday paddles and seasonal panties.

Obviously, these ones are not for me.

I think that the idea of having special panties for each season is a VERY good one. They also have items for guys, which I think is fairly special considering the frequently heteronormative nature of the spanking community.


I have a good spanko friend who happens to have a phobia which is a bit unique: she's afraid of Santa Claus. This would probably make a pretty effective punishment implement for her, right?

I know that's cruel. I'm sorry. I can't help it. 

It's now 2:30 AM, and I'm behind schedule on my posting schedule as enforced by my wonderful Boss of Me, YS, so I stayed up to finish this one up, only to get a Semi-Boss scolding me off to bed. So now that I have finished, I shall check for typos in the morning. Heather W, if you see anything, PLEASE DON'T SAY ANYTHING.

Obnoxious Comments Revisited

In January I made this post detailing what kind of comments I frequently received on Fetlife that I did not appreciate. This post created some controversy, because people don't like to be told that they are doing something that pisses others off. I actually lost a friend because he said that I was too picky about comments. -_-

Fetlife comments that are annoying, not appreciated or offensive continue to be a problem. I've branched out to notice several new types of annoying comments. Here is the updated list. Please note that this post isn't exactly sweet and positive. If you don't like this or you have some kind of delicate sensibilities and can't deal with me using "harsh language" then I suggest that you skip this one.

1) Creepily sexual comments. 
I've already pretty well established that excessively sexual comments from strangers make me, and NEARLY EVERY OTHER GIRL ON THE INTERNET at least somewhat uncomfortable. I do acknowledge that there are some girls who get off on the idea that a stranger wants to put his tongue in them for hours, but those girls really aren't the majority. I'm moving on to include "creepily sexual" in this category, because those are even worse. Topping this list is the comment "I hope you are looking forward to me sneaking up on you to give you a good fuck." I hope the commenter is looking forward to me stabbing him the throat in self defense. Strangers being sexually forceful isn't actually hot. It's just...rapey. In a bad way. In a "if this comment was a neighborhood that I was driving through, I would lock my doors" kind of way.

2) Sexualizing non-sexual pictures or trying to force a picture into a different fetish. 
I know that Fetlife is about kink. It's also basically where I hang out all day. I have more friends that I actually value, talk to and visit on Fetlife than any other place. Because of this, I sometimes post pretty vanilla stuff to my Fetlife page. I try not to post things that are excessively "Vanilla and Unpopular" like pictures of what I ate for dinner or a photo of some rocks, but I do post pictures of me just hanging out and doing regular-person stuff that have nothing to do with kink. It makes sense: I do stuff other than get spanked. I wear clothes most of the time. My whole life isn't one big spanking video. Sometimes, commenters don't understand this. Once, someone commented on a photo of me and a friend (I think Heather) at a mall or something with "Did you guys have sex in the foodcourt?" No! We walked around and looked at clothes, talked about whatever we were feeling insecure about, drank an Orange Julius, tried some dresses on and then went home.
Another time, I posted a photo of a cake and someone commented that he wanted to jizz all over it. Fuck you people.

Equally obnoxious to me is when people try to make up a story which fits my photo into a different fetish. For example, I uploaded a perfectly innocent photo of myself in the corner and someone commented with "Sent to the corner with a butt plug and vaginal dildo in place and told not to touch yourself." No, just sent to the corner. End of story. You can think about whatever you want when you look at my pictures. Just don't write those words down if they aren't the kind of thing you share with everyone else.

Popular among my friends is the story of a comment that was placed on this photo:

This awesome photo is by Amoni Jones. I love her forever.

This is a picture of me that my good friend, Amoni took during an Alex in Spankingland themed photo shoot. At some point, I'll be re-doing my blog to include some of these photos in the layout. I feel like this picture is fairly straight forward, especially considering that the next photo in the series is of me bent over that rock behind me with my bare, spanked bottom on display. I'm about to be spanked and I'm petulant about it.

According to a commenter, this is a photo of "a young school girl pissing out of doors."
Oh. Ok. I GUESS I can see where you could kind of get that idea from. Maybe just a little.
Anyway, this became hilarious because I was amused by the syntax "pissing out of doors" (when he clearly meant "outdoors") and did a literal demonstration (without actually peeing, of course) of what that looks like in my head: a girl opens up a door, stands in the frame, then thrusts her crotch forward in an attempt to piss out of the door. I imitated this a lot at Chicago Crimson Moon this October. I also got spanked for doing so. :P

3) Complaints about pantie placement/what I'm wearing/how I'm posed/other details
I personally like panties a lot. I buy lots of cute ones, and I want to take photos wearing them. I love the way that my red butt looks sticking out from my panties. Often times, when I take pictures, I'll pull my panties back up after a bare bottom spanking because I like that look. So. Many. People. Complain. About. This. It's almost enough to make me not want to post photos of my butt to the internet anymore when I post a picture and I get comments like "that should have been on the bare" or "why did he leave your panties up"? It isn't like I never post bare bottom photos. I'd say it's a pretty even split. If you don't like a photo with my panties up, go look at one with them down. Bam. Problem solved. Once, maybe a week after a photo of me having been spanked in my swimsuit was uploaded, someone commented on it saying "Could you take one with the bottoms pulled down?" Oh, yes. Let me go back in time to when I got that spanking and take a picture to your exact specifications.
I get these complains about lots and lots of things. "I wish your pajamas were dropseats." "Next time, take a photo where you're bent over the couch." "Take pictures during the spanking, not after." -_-
I usually just delete the offending comments and then move on with my life. One that I found particularly annoying was left on this photo:

This is probably my favorite photo of all time, leaving aside a couple of pictures of me and my brother, and it's certainly my favorite spanking related photo. Why do I like it so much? Because those moments when I'm worn out and crying after a long, hard spanking and Malignus is holding me and calming me down are some of the most special moments in my life, period. This is the only time when there was someone else there at that moment with a camera, so it's the only photo that I currently have of this kind of moment. It's also from the first time that I visited Malignus, before I was his girlfriend, before we moved in together and built the life that we have now. It just brings up a lot of positive memories. It always makes me smile.
Someone commented on it saying that it would be better if my socks were white.
dfghosdoghosiudghdfioughdiufghiusefhisuefgtsuygfidfgisufisufgisudfhisufhiosuediufgiuhijbdfsdfhs!!!!!!!HNUIU!

4) Comments not related to photo.

This is a practice that a lot of people are guilty of that I just find really rude: commenting on a photo to say something which is unrelated to the picture. One time, one of my friends uploaded a photo of her thighs after they were spanked and it turned into a giant discussion regarding whether or not thighs should be spanked. Another time, a different friend uploaded a picture of her being spanked by a play partner and several girls started using the comments there as a place to brat their Tops. People start having side conversations. Someone comments on a photo to say something that's just about themselves and is only tangentially related to what's being pictured. A girl uses someone else's photo comment thread as a place to be disrespectful to someone who isn't even included in the picture in order to get attention. All of this is just, in my opinion, unacceptable. If you want to talk about something like whether or not thighs should be spanked, start a thread. If you want to brat your Top, go write on his wall or IM him. If you want to talk about yourself, post your own goddamn picture. I'm not saying that my pictures are uploaded just so that people will talk about me and pay attention to me, but it's still my photo, and that's not the right place for your discussion. You can argue this with me if you don't agree, but I really find that disrespectful to the person who posted the picture.

5) Your ass is too pale/Those marks are too much. 

I don't bruise like I used to. A really hard and severe spanking can leave me in a condition which photographs as "pink". I've accepted this. Not bruising is convenient when doing lots of shooting: it means that I can do back to back shoots and never have to worry about asking Tops not to mark me. It just doesn't always look as epic in the photos. People complain about this, or they diminish the intensity of the spanking that I received. "Nice warmup!" or "Off to a good start!" comments are always kind of snarky in a way that I don't appreciate. On the other hand, when I *do* have noticeable bruises, there's always someone who comments or otherwise points out to me that they think it's "too much for their taste." My spankings are tailored to me. I don't upload photos from something that wasn't a positive experience. If I'm bearing marks and I've photographed them, it's because *I like them.* Aren't you people ever satisfied?!

6) I like the one on the left. 

In general, I don't like it when I upload pictures of myself and people talk about me like I'm not involved. "I like that girl's ass." "She's got nice tits." Those aren't enough of a peeve to warrant me including them as a category here. What really bugs me is when I upload a picture of me in a group of girls and someone comments saying which one of us they like the best. This happens a lot with my Sternwood Academy pictures, or pictures of me hanging out with friends at parties. Someone will comment and say "The third girl in is the hottest!" or "I like the one on the left." Nothing makes a girl feel great like saying "Your friend is hotter than you, I just wanted to point that out!" It doesn't matter if the girl that they are singling out as "the hot one" is me or not. It just isn't nice. Not to mention that the language used in these comments is often really objectifying. Harumph.




-End of List of Things I Don't Like-

Because for the fast few months I've been trying to focus on the positive in life, I'm going to do a quick positive affirmation to make up for all the negativity in this post.

I get LOTS AND LOTS of awesome comments that make me feel great about myself. I love it when people take the time to let me know that they enjoyed what I wrote or a photograph of me. I love it when people tell me that my cuteness made their day. I love it when I inspire people to to take their own photos or write their own blogs. I love it when my friends are concerned about me and want me to be happy. I love my readers. I love it when people reblog tumblr pictures of me and attach my name and link to them when someone just uploaded a promotional picture or whatever. I love it when people comment on my blog to just say "I read your post and liked it." I love my friends. I love my boyfriends. I love my Bosses of Me. I love my sisters. I love spankings. I love my hair. I love my pajamas.

Also, I recently drew this as an assignment from YS. Pretty epic win, huh?