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Sunday, May 13, 2012

Goodbye to Heather

For the past several months, one of my all-time best friends (and fellow spanking model), Heather Michaels, has lived with Malignus and I. There have been a lot of awesome times and adventures during that time. My sisters in my family of origin are both considerably older than me and also suffer from a condition known as "being total bitches" so I never had a close relationship with them, but Heather has always been exactly like what I imagine a sister is supposed to be. It doesn't matter what we're supposed to be-- she's part of the family that I chose for myself.

Unfortunately for me, but on a very exciting note for her, Heather left Sioux Falls on Friday to move to Texas with her boyfriend, who had been out of the country for work since before they started dating. Malignus and I took her to the airport to pick him up and got to meet him for the first time. He's a really awesome guy and I'm very happy for them. Unfortunately, pretty much as soon as we got to the airport, I started to get a fairly severe migraine, so I sort of shook his hand, went home, threw up a bunch and then curled up in the bed and died for the rest of the night.

The next day, I was supposed to go to work and then the four of us were supposed to go to the other side of the state to visit various sites including Bear Country USA. The list of the happiest days of my life include when I got spanked for the first time, when I entered University (I find this to be happier than my graduation because the fact that I had to leave the college after graduating was pretty tragically heartbreaking for me so that was very bittersweet) and the day that I spent at Bear Country in August with Malignus. We also went there recently for the Cub Festival, where they didn't actually let me hold the cubs but they did let me pet them and I kissed one when no one was looking.


Anyway, I was so sick that I decided out of my own free will that I needed to stay home for the weekend instead of driving out to see all these awesome things (read- baby and adult bears). It's no wonder that originally, Malignus wanted me to stay with friends who live closer to the hospital before I convinced him that I was going to be alright!

EVEN MORE sad than the fact that this meant I didn't get to see bears is the fact that this meant that I didn't get to have a weekend to say goodbye to Heather. I spent last weekend at Sternwood with her, but without the idea that she'd be leaving soon at the front of my brain. I already miss her like crazy and it's only been a day and a half since she left.

I wanted to take a moment to celebrate this very special woman who I've been very fortunate to have in my life.

Heather is very sweet and she cares about the people in her life with a sense of devotion that is rare and beautiful.

She's energetic and can really get behind having a good adventure. I love hearing her say "YES! Let's do that!" when we're brainstorming ideas for ways that we can have fun or do something cool.

 Our minds are very in-tune when it comes to our spanko nature, and we can't go anywhere without finding things that could be used as implements.

Heather is strong without being threatening. I've never felt like she was going to punch someone in the face, but she carries herself with a sense of confidence which makes it undeniable that you shouldn't fuck with her. (She did tell a hippy to shut up on a plane once, though. That was for the win.)

Heather is fun to very nearly get into trouble with in real life (oh look! We somehow got everything done at the last minute!) and to get into lots of "for fun" trouble with during shoots.

Heather is fun to get spanked with and her reactions are very powerful and genuine and also kind of cute. She's a fun Top when we play that way, even if she hasn't developed a great sense of rhythm yet. :P

I think that she could probably run from South Dakota to Texas and be just fine, because she's crazy athletic.

Heather is a really beautiful woman. It's clear to everyone that looks at her that physically, she's a knock out, but to me, the more important beauty comes from her positive energy and the fact that she can't hide what a good person she is.

I know we'll be seeing each other before too long, and we'll be in each other's lives forever. My love and affections for her could not be more genuine and I know that distance won't diminish them.


10 comments:

  1. Awwwwwww hopefully one of you will visit the other soon. Of course you can still chat online every day :-) The collage photo is excellent.

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    1. Thanks! I know we will stay in close contact. :)

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  2. Alas,

    It is always hard when those who are dear to us go their own way, it leaves us with feelings of loneliness and sadness. However, Heather has left you a great gift and that is the gift of precious memories. No matter how far you two are you can always reach into your vast and rich treasure trove of precious memories and there you will always find Heather waiting for you. You are blessed to have such a great friend that leaves you feeling empty when they are gone. You are even more blessed to have a friend that has left you the gift of such precious memories, that will always keep you connect over time and distance. Wishing you the very best.

    BTW- Texas is a great place to visit, we are just chucked full of friendly people.

    TheVBB. aka Mark

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    1. Thanks so much for this, Mark! You're very sweet and insightful!

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  3. What a lovely tribute to a dear friend. Hugs to you.

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  4. It's rough when your partner in crime isn't as physically close as you'd like. Hopefully you can have frequent get togethers.

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    1. I hope so, too! I'm sure we can make long distance mischief somehow, too!

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  5. We have driven from South Dakota to Texas many times... it's not too-too far away. We wish Heather lots of luck with her new home... and we hope your head is feeling better!

    :)
    ~Todd and Suzy

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    1. Thanks! It's certainly nice to have places to road trip to! :)

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